Getting rid of my sugar addiction

Sugar, I’m truly sorry, but we have to say goodbye. I love you Sugar, perhaps a little bit too much. Our relationship is no longer adding anything to my life. In fact, it’s doing more harm than good. I wish you the best, but I have to go now.

My sugar addiction was getting out of hand. I could easily eat a big bag of M&M’s, a whole bag of cookies and some other stuff in one day. Yes, just one day, every day … I was craving sugar for most of the day and was getting restless if I didn’t had access to it.

Eating too much sugar has been a problem ever since I was a teenager. I would eat bags and bags of sweets in just a few hours. No one would ever suspect me of a sugar addiction, unless they have seen me eaten, because I’m really skinny and I never gain a single pound, despite the amounts of food I’m consuming.

Eating less sugar has never been something I was looking forward to. I love sweets and chocolate and when I feel bad I rather eat a candy bar than an apple or something. I like fruit as well, but somehow candy always was my first choice.

So why quit eating so much sugar when you like it? Because man, I was feeling horrible! I was tired most of the time and only got a temporary sugar rush after eating some candy. Also I’m pretty sure that my mood swings have something to do with the overkill of sugar I take.

Yesterday I mostly ate healthy stuff. I had a nice breakfast, ate some fruit, drank only one soda and a lot of tea and even made myself a salad and some freshly squeezed juice. I did managed to trick myself into thinking it was OK to eat some candy … The addict in me still want sugar.

Today, I’m feeling horrible. I’m so tired and I feel like I’m getting the flu or something. I looked up what the withdrawal symptoms of quitting sugar are, and getting really tired is one of them. So I guess it’s just something I have to get through.

Some other withdrawal symptoms are cravings, anxiety and depression, and a general sense of loss when the addictive substance is not used. I’m looking forward to it … not.

So why stop? Because it’s killing you, slowly, from the inside out. You can get diabetes, heart diseases, you can get fat, get emotional troubles etcetera. Yes, I like sugar. Pff, I LOVE sugar, but the amount of sugar I’m taking will not do me anything good.

I don’t want to scan every label to see if there’s sugar in something, so I’m just going with not buying candy and no sugar in my tea anymore. It seems like not much, but the candy is my main problem. I’m pretty sure it will be a struggle to kick the addiction and replace the candy with some more healthy snacks, but I need to do it.

If you want to get rid of your sugar addiction as well, start now, not tomorrow. If it’s too much for you to go cold turkey, start with small steps, like no more sugar in your coffee, no more soda or, if candy is not that big of a deal for you, no more candy. Eating less sugar will make you healthier and will make you feel better eventually. Eating less is better than not doing anything at all.


Getting Rapunzel-like hair

Every time I go to the hairdresser, the boyfriend is saying the same thing: “Don’t cut it off, OK?” He loves loves loves long hair, and so do I! But when I’m at the hairdresser, looking at all those cute short hairstyles, I have the tendency to cave in and think: “ Who cares?! My hair will grow back on again.” And so I let it get cut off … and regret it when I come home … I guess that because my hair isn’t that long (just above my shoulders) it’s easier to cut it off. If I would have really long hair it would be a lot harder, I’m pretty sure about that. But I really want long hair, I just never had the patient to let it grow. So boyfriend, this must be your lucky day: I’m finally ready to let my hair grow.

My hair is 31 centimeters long (that’s 12,2 inches). So, how I’m going to get it to grow long(er)?

Step 1: I’ve visited my hairdresser. Yes, I started growing my hair by cutting it off. Not that much, just the split ends, so I have a fresh start to start growing my hair.

Step 2: Resist the temptation of coloring my hair! I’ve colored my hair for years, and stopped doing it a while ago. There is no hair dye in my hair anymore right now, but when I see a picture of a girl with beautiful red hair, I have to hold myself back not to run to the drugstore and get some hair dye.

Step 3: Pick up on the No ‘Poo method again. I was no ‘poo for a long time, but when I went on a long holiday I got lazy and started using regular shampoo again. I also started using regular conditioner again because I wasn’t satisfied with the apple cider vinegar as a conditioner. I will stop using regular conditioner, but instead I’ll be putting some serum in my hair after washing it. Not because my hair is unable to get through with a brush when there isn’t something like a conditioner or serum in it, but just because I like my hair better when there is. Yes, I’m sooo vain …

Step 4: Eat healthy. I know, easier said than done. I’m a huge sugar addict. While writing this, I already ate seven little chocolates. So it’s another lucky day for the boyfriend, because he’s been nagging me for months now to start eating more healthy (and I know, he’s saying it because he cares … and he’s right, I should eat healthier). But what foods while help you grow healthier hair (better hair seems like a good motivation to me for eating healthier :P)? Think about nuts (especially walnuts and almonds) and milk, stuff with vitamin B in it (like bananas, spinach and potatoes) and food with folic acids in them (tomatoes, citrus fruits, beans, lentils and whole grain products). I know fish, meat and poultry are also major sources of B-12, but that’s one step to far for a vegetarian like me. Don’t forget to eat some protein. You can find protein in products like lean meat, eggs and soy products. And if you want to be really sure that you get everything you need: take a multivitamin. Basically it just comes down to: eat enough fresh fruits and vegetables and don’t forget to drink plenty of water. Cliché? Yes. True? Most likely.

Step 5: Don’t go to the hairdresser anymore. Years ago, my hair was the longest and healthiest it had ever been. Back then, I never went to see a hairdresser. Every once in a while, I would just cut off the ends of my hair myself and my hair was looking great. I hate going to the hairdresser: it’s expensive and my hair rarely turns out the way I wanted it to be. So bye bye hairdresser, I’ll just be cutting my hair myself when I think I have to. Really, there’s no use in seeing a hairdresser every six weeks when you want to grow your hair longer. Hair only grows approximately half an inch per month. By cutting your hair every six weeks it will take for ever to grow your hair longer. So, just judge for yourself when you think it’s time to cut your hair. If you notice your hair is getting dry at the ends or the ends are splitting, it might be time to cut them off.

And last but not least: some quick 101’s for getting healthier hair:

  • Don’t use hot water to wash and rinse your hair. Instead, go for cooler water (it doesn’t has to be ice-cold, just don’t use steaming hot water).
  • When you dry your hair, don’t rub it with a towel. It will damage your hair.
  • Never brush wet hair! Because wet hair is stretchier it has a tendency to snap. Use a wide toothed comb instead.
  • Don’t use too much hair products, they will dry out your hair.
  • Let your hair dry naturally when you can. If you do need to use a blow dryer or straightening iron, don’t forget to use a heat protector on your hair.
  • Don’t brush your hair too much. Two times a day is enough.
  • Don’t wash your hair every single day.
  • Sleep on a silk or satin pillowcase–cotton pillowcases make hair look dry; they suck out the moisture and can cause frizz.
  • If you notice your hair is becoming dry, wash it less frequently, so the natural oil balance can be restored.

Don’t get upset when your hair just doesn’t seems to get any longer. Be patient, it takes a while.

Getting out of your lazy-mode

Shame on me. Shame … on … me … It’s been, well, let’s just say, “a while” since the last time I’d posted a blog. It had nothing, or at least not much, to do with having no inspiration. It had to do with pure, loathed laziness. Nothing more, nothing less. Yes, I admit it: I can be lazy sometimes. It’s not even about having no motivation. It’s about liking to hang on my coach, watching stupid tv shows and thinking: “Maybe I should write a blog, it’s been a while … Nah, never mind *goes back into lazy-mode*”.

To be honest, I dislike that lazy side of my personality, but I never put much effort into changing something about it (maybe because I’m too lazy? :P). But I have to admit; being lazy has caused many disappointment in my life. And yes, I’m the only one to blame.

Yes, thanks to my lack of effort to give myself a kick in the butt I’ve failed a lot of things. Yes, that sucks. Yes, I feel a bit sad about that sometimes. And that, feeling sad, is the point were I hit the brakes, get out and look at myself in disbelieve. You feel SAD about failing things because You Were Too Damn Lazy?! Excuse me?! Shame on you! Shame … On … You …

Yes, shame on me. Drowning into a pool of self-pity when I’m the only one to blame is disgusting! It’s making me feel sick about myself. So, what to do about it?

How to kick the lazy-habit?

Figure out what’s holding you back. Why is it so hard to do something? I mean, I like writing, a lot! But why is it taking so much to actually get up and do it? For me it’s usaully the fear of failure holding me back. I rather don’t try at all than fail something.

Make goals that are actually achievable. “Writing a book” seem a big goal, and it is, especially when you already have a hard time starting something. Such a big goal might discourage you even more. So start with a smaller goal, something like “write 250 words”.

Ask for help (if you need it). If you find something too hard to do on your own, ask someones help. Ask them to write with you or to read what you’ve written so you feel a little bit of pressure to actually finish your goal.

Whatever you do, don’t look for excuses. It’s easy to think: “Nah, I already did so much today, it’s perfectly understandable that I don’t feel like writing right now.” It’s easy to come up with an excuse not to do something. Instead, try to think: “I’ll do what I have to do, so I can do what I want to do.”

Consider getting rid of your television. Don’t shout me! Hear me out please. Think about all the benefits! You will gain so much extra time when you’re no longer wasting your time with watching stupid tv shows. And besides the extra time, think about the lack of temptation to lie around watching it constantly. But maybe you’re like me. Getting rid of your television might be a little bit too radical for you too. Maybe you can consider going to a TV-free place for a few hours a day, like the library or the local park or something, to get things done.

Get out off your lazy-mode. Even the smallest things might get you up and get going. Maybe just getting up to wash your hands might be enough to get you out of your lazy-mode.

Try not to make things bigger than they are. If you feeling reluctant to what you WANT to do, it might be because you’re creating an elephant out of a mosquito. Think about the small vs. big goals again. When you’re goal is to write 250 words, but you keep thinking about that whole book you “have” to write, it might get a real big step to get started. Focus on the journey, the little goals.

Do things NOW! Don’t wait until tomorrow. Don’t even wait until the next hour. Just Do It NOW!

If nothing works, and you feel like it’s not only about being lazy, there might be more going on, like a depression. Seek medical help so you can talk about your problem and look for a solution.

(I used writing as an example, but of course you can use these tips for whatever goal you would like to achieve)